Very well said.
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If People Talked About Other Things the Way They Talked About Gender Identity.
Fiction: “It’s either a short story or a novel. There’s no such thing as a novella.”
Subatomic particles: “Now they’re saying they discovered ‘tetraquarks’ and ‘pentaquarks’. How many combinations of quarks are there? I can’t even keep up these days. What ever happened to just talking about good old atoms?”
Ice cream: “Avocado is not a valid ice cream flavor because I’ve never heard of it and it does not appeal to me.”
Language: “I don’t care what linguists say, I know a dialect when I see one, and Pennsylvania Dutch English is not a dialect.”
Water: “Water is H20. Ice might parade around pretending to be something different, but we all know that it’s…
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This is the garage door that started the journey for me. I took this picture yesterday. Six days from now I will have been with my boyfriend for twenty one years. Some days that feels like a century… But I digress. When we first got together, his “grandma” (who was actually his adopted mother) let us live in her garage. She had a bathroom put in on the back porch of her house (and had him pay her back for it to teach the twenty one year old us about bills) but she never charged us for the utilities. At the time I was to headstrong to see the gift that she was giving us… She was stern and slightly scary to me. I have learned that she really was an amazing woman since.
I can say that it was a struggle to make the garage into a home. We ran gas lines for a stove. We acquired a refrigerator from a local mission. He and I slept on a large sofa we were given. I failed to appreciate the struggle then, because at twenty one I was ignorant of the way of the world. I had seen the darkness in man, but I had really never had to do the housing thing. When my family didn’t have a home I lived with my grandma. So I always had a roof over my head. The garage wasn’t even the worst place I have ever lived. I have lived ten people in a two bedroom trailer with no running water. That is another story though.
Now Joe is working on getting the house. He inherited a fourth of it and his adopted sister is giving him her share. So we have only two halves to buy before it is ours. This is a convoluted and stressful time for me. I want to keep the memories of this house. I want the stability for my family that the house will provide. But the house also has baggage. Baggage in the form from of people who are currently in the house. People who we are trying to get settled. There is a lot involved with this. Add the fact that we are not able to settle in and you have the chaos of my life.
Then I looked at the garage door and felt like it had come full circle. Which is why I took the picture. The feeling of peace came through in the picture.
We all go through moments of stress. How we deal with said stress is how we are as a person. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not judging anyone for the way that they deal with the stress in their life. All that I am saying is that we as a society tend to see dealing with stress as a character definition.
However sometimes it is beyond our capacity to deal with. Then stress becomes mental illness and nervous breakdowns. There becomes physical symptoms. And it varies by the person. Stress is not something that is wanted by anyone. It does however, on occasion sharpen the mind and make clarity easier to achieve.
I, myself, have found that for example the stress of a deadline can get the creative juices flowing in some. I have also seen others who freeze when placed under such stress. How do you handle stress? And what are some relaxation techniques you have for dealing with stress when it shows up?
A friend of mine who is a talented writer was complaining to me yesterday about the difficulties of scene transitions. She is struggling to determine what she should and should not include in the current in progress draft of her novel. I feel her pain, but also know plenty of experienced writers have trouble in the same department.
The long and short of it is: in the case of most novels, you can’t detail out every waking second.
I once read somewhere that in many movies, the camera is idle on a subject or angle for only about three seconds at a time in order to hold the audience’s attention.
In fact, many filming tips may be relevant to writing; on this website, the teacher instructs film editing students to:
Cut away from the scene the moment the visual statement is made.
People are super shitty at paying attention…
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It seems to me that we spend our childhood building our initial vision of the world. We do our best trying to answer as many questions as possible, and in our eagerness to understand everything around us, we name things and label them and we think that we’re absolutely certain that things are exactly how we see them.
And I also feel that we always return to this initial vision.
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